Lately, I have been thinking about names again. I think we’re pretty solid on Haruka Victoria, but I was thinking more about a nickname.
Most likely, people will call her “Haru”, which is nice because it means “spring”. But I was also thinking about her western nickname as well.
As I mentioned in a previous entry, names mean a lot to me. I think its important that a person be given the proper nickname, because some people judge a person’s character by the name they choose to call themselves.
For example, Candice is a really cool name, but this name is usually degraded down to “Candi”, which in my mind is a name for a Las Vegas stripper. When I was a kid, I also knew a girl named Canvita, which is also a cool name because it sounded pretty exotic, but a lot of people (especially the older kids and adults) wound up calling her [[cannabis]] (scientific term for marijuana). The fact that her parents were very hippy-like didn’t help matters much either.
Usually Victoria is shortened to Vicki, Vicky, Vikki, Torry, Torri, or Tori (among several other variations in spelling). I personally like Vicky or Vikki. Since there is no “CK” combination in Japanese, I think people over here will have an easier time with “Vikki” I really can’t stand “Tori.” Main reason (and probably only real reason) is because of Tori Spelling from 90210. I really hate her, because she so obnoxiously ugly and spoiled! Other than that,Tori would have been a cute name to use because it also means “bird”in
Japanese. But Spelling really tainted this name for me. But I guess the choice isn’t really up to me. Our daughter will be given two names to choose from, and she will decide what she would like to be called…I just hope she doesn’t choose Tori.
I have been looking into ways of putting together an online photo album to share photos with friends and family. Most of my friends use Flickr, which is alright, but I probably won’t be using Flickr for the same reason I gave up using Xanga as my blog site. There is no guarantee that Flickr will be available
in the future, and the lack of security control prompts me to look for alternatives. And although I publish my blog entry to anyone who’s interested enough to read what I’ve got to say, I think I will be keeping my photos more private and allow only friends and family to see them. So this means I need to allocate space on my web server for a photo album and look for software to host it all. Shouldn’t be a big deal. I will continue to use YouTube for hosting my videos, because they seem to be a pretty solid operation since the Google take over. Also, hosting video clips entails much more hardware overhead, so for now, YouTube is the best solution.
Just being there for her
Since we moved, I seemed to misplaced my webcam, or maybe I lost it or threw it away by accident. But they’re really cheap now; about $20 for a no frills one, so I was considering putting up a real time video site, and place the webcam above Haruka’s crib so I can see her even from work. I’ve always harshly criticized TV commercials that show fathers using some kind of technology (like a cell phone or a computer to peak in at their kids from work).
I have always been an avocate for a father or mother who is there for their kids. I think this is important. But in a hard and cruel society such as Japan, the reality is that we have to take what we can get. And if that means that I have to watch my child grow up through a lens of a camera, although sad, so be it. But I will definately never be one of those fathers who prioritize work over their kids. I see way too many screwed up children who have been victimized by a neglectful mother or father.
In past blog entries, I have been very critical over the way one of my cousin raises his kids. Everytime I see them, the elder kid always seems to be out of control, with my cousin doing very little to get him back under control. Based on this, I have harshly speculated the level of [[dysfunctionality]] in their home.
But in reality, having read blog entries and watching their video clips, I can tell that there is a lot more than meet the eye. Although he has a weird of showing it (or not showing it) my cousin does really go out of his way for his kids.